About soul mates

Someone just said “I don’t believe in soul mates.” A thought ran down in me. Do I? I think I do. Come to think of it, what a pity someone can’t. You could extend it and connect it with the ability to fall in love, and how much does one know about oneself.

Let me put it this way. The claims that we often make while still in our “single status” about incompatibilities that two people have – and then tout it as the element that will prevent two people from coming together in total heart-to-heart connection, points to an overestimation of our knowledge about the self. When I happen to find the woman I’d like to spend the rest of my life with, I’d really like to have her as my soul-mate. I’d like to connect with her at deep levels. And if that calls for “changing” myself a bit to endear myself even more to her, then how do I know if I won’t mind doing it? Having never actually been in a long-term relationship, how do I know I might not respond in surprising ways when I go for it? Because simply put, without having an actual experience, I have no basis to make claims like “this is how it’s going to be” or that “there’s going to be differences”. Because when I happen to fall in love, it might just be that connecting with the person with uninhibited closeness will turn out far more important to me than differences in personalities – which then I might not even like to think as “differences” any longer, and that reconciling them might not even require any real effort.

The line of thinking is quite simple, but not simplistic. The point to realize is that the * desire * to connect with someone itself has great value – and underestimating it is what causes a misdirected thinking as the one mentioned above. Like it’s said, love can conquer all ^_^